Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Should I be sad?

I'm going to talk this one out real quick, feel free to click away or close the page. I won't mind, but somethings are better left put out there. Ya know, it makes us feel better at times.  Well from what  I hear anyways!

As of lately, what with all of the life stuff happening around me. I'm noticing what the people around me, friends mainly mean to me and how I think I feel to them.

As of lately, no one talks to me anymore.  They're never around or anything like that. I think I'm just misunderstanding their absence or something. Perhaps it's because I'm always around.  Maybe I too am guilty of neglecting our friendships.  I know that I don't call or text those who I speak of. Those who will remain nameless because I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But of these missing pieces in my life, some of them I'm willing to forgive, those who I love so dearly that it doesn't really matter to me that I'm not an important part of their lives, because i know, just as they know. Life happens and it's understandable. Perhaps I misunderstand, maybe these are the real friendships where those others are the ones who aren't really the friends.

I'm so confused....

As of right now I'm in the process of grieving those lost friendships, I'm close to ready to wash my hands of them, move on with my life and stop checking in to see if they've responded at all, ever.  I guess it's sadder really that I worry about hearing from them, that I look forward to it or something.

Oh well, guess people change. I guess it's time for me to do the same.

It took me a day or two, but I finished it.  Stay tuned for today's post, did you catch my Music For A Tuesday?

Hang in there!


  1. Hi Doria, yes people do change and people move on and I personally have learned to burn my bridges and move forward whether or not that is really right, who knows? Sorry if you have close friends that no longer act the part. Good luck on moving ahead. Take care of #1 girl.

  2. It is hard when you can't really figure out why circumstances change. However, it has been my experience that if you surround yourself with people and things who bring you joy or add value to your life, none of the other stuff really matters, 'cause it's just junk anyway and needs to be thrown in the trash bin.

  3. I have to second what Odie said here. He's a wise man. Sometimes people come into our lives for a short time and when that friendship has served it's purpose everyone has to move on. Just keep the good memories and laugh.

  4. You can't control what others do, only your own actions. Laurie ran into this a lot and has got to the point of, well, if they're not going to make an effort, neither will I. Can't blame her. You have friends that are actually friends and friends that are just characters passing through. Hang in there. Just a damn shame that people are far more loyal online.

  5. As I tell my husband you shouldn't always be the one to do the reaching out or being the one to make the phone calls at some point the other party needs to reach out or ring you and if they don't then maybe you do not mean as much to them as they do to you..........or if you find that you don't want to reach out to them as much then maybe you have difted apart and that happens it is not a bad thing it is just what has happened don't dwell on it just move forward.

  6. Yeah that's quite common thing that everyone faces at many points in their life.I've faced this too.People change or may be circumstances force us to change!
    Its better to go with the flow that's what I do most of the time.It hurts but you have no other choice too!

  7. Don't sweat it Doria, it's their loss! You have enough on your plate and no need to let some things/people bring you down.

    Maybe they are just jealous! You RAWK and don't you eva forget it!


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